"Well, here it is....the first month of 2015. Seems like last year just flew by!"
When you're a kid, time seems to move so slowly. You're always looking forward to the next big thing -- always trying to speed things up.
As you get older, you still look forward to certain things, but the reality and beauty of the "here and now," becomes astonishingly more apparent. You really begin to grasp the importance of things like: the words you speak, the words you don't speak, the moments you share, the chances you take, the chances you don't take, and the lessons you learn....
Ahhh, the lessons!
Obviously, we all start the learning process before we even take our first breathe. Some of us learn quickly, some of us -- not so much. The important thing to ask ourselves is this:
Are we allowing the lessons we learn from our past to mold and create a better future?
I sure hope so!
In keeping with the season of New Year's resolutions, I'd like to share 4 lessons I learned from the past year. After all, the lessons we learn inspire our resolutions, right?
Okay, I already knew this, but 2014 proved it to me in a big way. You see, persistence has not always been my strong suit. I get bored easily. Like, REALLY easily. As a result, I tend to change horses in midstream.
2014 taught me that I do, in fact, possess the ability to be persistent, and even like it. (Who knew?)
A good reminder: when you couple persistency with the things you love, you reap twice the reward.
Remember the movie "Runaway Bride?" The part where Richard Gere says to Julia Roberts, "you're so lost, you don't even know what kind of eggs you like!" He says this to her in the context of her not being true to herself -- being what everyone else wants her to be.
Most of us can probably relate to this in one way or another. Whether it's in a job, a relationship, or just society in general.
I certainly can (relate).
Through the years, I've learned the hard way that if you only focus on making everyone else around you happy, the one person who is most likely to end up unhappy, is you. I've also learned the hard way that it's entirely possible to blend into someone else's life so much that you become invisible. (And not in a super hero kind of way.)
2014 taught me that it's much better to be the true version of myself and be happy, than a miserable, second-rate version of a Stepford-me.
Or as Dr. Seuss put it, "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."
Okay, so I already knew this too, but boy did 2014 show it too me in a whole new light! Some people will swear to the moon and back that they're the bestest, truest friend you've ever have.
Unfortunately, they're lying.
The cold, hard truth is this: your real friends will be there for you no matter what -- not just when there's something in it for them. They will truly care about your happiness and wellbeing, even when they don't agree with you.
2014 taught me (again) that true friends are beautiful, multifaceted diamonds to be cherished and treasured forever. The others are just poorly made, cubic zirconias.
Remember, CZs need love, too. Just make sure you're a well-trained jeweler.
4. Happiness Comes From Within
I know, I know, it sounds like such a cliché -- you must learn to love yourself, happiness is a choice, --Blah, blah, BLAH!
The crazy thing is, it's true.
2014 taught me that one of the most important relationships I can nurture, is the one with myself.
Because let's face it, if you're not happy with "you", you're simply not happy. The quality of the relationship you have with yourself, directly affects the quality of every other relationship in your life. So, make it a good one!